Saturday, August 6, 2011

Birealist, bicurious or biphobic?

Here is a quick bisexual check-list:
  1. Bisexuality is not just a phase.
  2. Bisexuals are not confused when they find peace with their sexual orientation.
  3. Bisexuality is not a combination of heterosexuality, homosexuality or anything else.
  4. Bisexuals do not have to be equally attracted to men, women and transsexuals.
  5. Bisexuals can love one partner and be faithful.
  6. Bisexuals can be in a loving relationship.
  7. not everyone can be a bisexual.
How many times do you agree with a statement?

  • If you agree over six times, you are birealist.
  • If you agree over four times, you are bicurious.
  • If you agree under two times, you are biphopic.

Have a nice day - whatever is your score!

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Do we really need gay bars?

The last ten years there has been a growing straight friendly “gay village” in Athens. Vibrant and funky Gazi (Γκάζι) is a neighborhood located next to Kerameikos metro station and close to the Acropolis. Everyone hangs around there but do we really need it? Discussion has two reversed sides, yes and no.

Those who are advocating gay areas and bars say that indeed we do need them. Until every LGBTQ person feels safe to be who they are with whom they choose to be, in every area of the town, we need places like Gazi. Being in the gay bar is seen to be more relaxing and fun than other average places, and it has a special kind of atmosphere you cannot find from any other place on town. People share information, get to know other tolerant people and unite while having fun with better awareness.

Then again, some people are still in the closet or exploring their sexuality and do not wish to be seen openly. There are bars for everything but for many people going out means meeting someone special. With a good luck an average bar can have about 10 % of their clients gay. Arguably, at the gay bar your percentage to succeed to share the same sexual orientation with the person you meet will raise a bit. 

Why some people are against that? They say that these areas and bars promote everything LGBTQ ideology and awareness is against. They are decreasing diversity, transparency and acceptance but increasing discrimination. Gay bars are not just fun and laughter; they are also places for homogeneous boredom where trends and gossips have all too huge meaning in a one little merry-go-round because of limited amount of people visiting them. 

More and more every day people and role models kick thier closet doors wide open and most of the people seem to become more tolerant for that. From that point of view these bars are outdated and even having opportunity to explore one’s sexuality does not necessarily require gay bars to do the trick anymore.

So, what do you say? Should there be more or less gay areas and bars in the future?

Friday, January 28, 2011

There is no (bi)sexuality

“I am not real, my sexual orientation is just a phase and I cheat whenever I find a possibility to do so. When I am in the opposite sex relationship I am gay and when I am in same sex relationship I am straight. Believing in bisexual identity is like betraying everyone around me. Not believing it makes me invisible and kills my basic needs and dreams. Same goes with all of the other people like me and celebrated historical persons in the world. They were lying about themselves to us. 

I have been told to be continuously confused for decades. Everyone is born sexual. I just could not make up my mind. I have been in a monogamous relationship for years now but that is just mocking real couples and love. I just want to f*ck everything that moves because I have to have sex with both genders simultaneously. I cannot help but spread sexually transmitted diseases with my sexual behavior. That is why it is okay to harass me without feeling guilty or shame. 

My way of living an adult life is a public prey on a daily basis of other people and media even never knowing me or asking a single question about my everyday life. If I could only understand all of this, admit being mentally ill and stop labeling myself, it would be better for all of us. It would not be so uncomfortable to be my colleague, acquaintance, friend or lover.” 

I have had only one question on my mind all of these years. How it would change the world if you could walk a day in my shoes? 

               Discriminating is wrong. 

                Refuse to be a victim.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Breathtaking views

This is one of the best sides of breathtaking Greece.
A beautiful mountain view and it is only a couple of hours from Athens.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Bisexual future from the past

“World population is moving towards a bisexual future”. One of the Europe´s most respected scientist, outspoken man and Nobel Prize nominee Dr. Umberto Veronesi raised some serious discussions few years ago with this statement. He cited scientific fact that the vitality of male reproductive cells has gone down by half since 1940s and raised up the discussion about endless new possibilities of artificial fertilization.

What will happen when the male-female intercourse will be more or less disconnected from reproduction of human life? Sex will not disappear but sexual intercourse would lose its reproductive function and our evolution will continue until the majority of people are bisexual according to Mr. Veronesi. 

In the future not only bisexual women are the fantasies of straight men. Bisexuality becomes even hotter and interesting orientation or behavior when the barriers of social and intergenerational relationships decrease. Meanwhile, the concept of family and domestic partnership evolve and idea of sexual freedom sees its full potential. 

One could add to Mr. Veronesi’s statement that history seems to repeat itself. It is not more than six centuries ago when bi- and heterosexuals did not raise that many eyebrows. That said, bisexuality of human kind is not only the future but also the past of all of us as loving human beings. As so many times before in human history we seem to invent a wheel again. What a pity. Instead of wasting our time we could have been doing so much more important things in life.

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Monastiraki foundings

I found this from the archeological site near Monastiraki in the heart of Athens few days ago. Somehow I really liked it.

Friday, January 21, 2011

Bisexual love

Universally love has been unconditional and eternal truth over the history of mankind. It makes the world go around with its different sides. It has two faces: hurt and healing, agony and passion, strength and vulnerability with slavery and freedom. It is not just explained with genes, hormones and pupil dilations.

Ancient Greek recognizes and distinguishes different use of the word love. Usually agape (ἀγάπη) refers to what we think nowadays when we say “I love you”. It’s ideal, but not always physical emotion. Eros (ἔρως) is the more physical side of love with more sensual desire, longing and passion to other person or beauty.

Love can also occur as storge (στοργή), which is natural affection and care taking like parental love. Then again philoxenia (φιλοξενία) is Greeks world famous hospitality and sense of love to any human being, that can be repaid with nothing but gratitude of the guest.

Most interesting is philia (φιλία), the love of the mind. It means loyalty to friends, family and community, where one or both parties benefit from a virtue of the relationship. According to Modern Greek the word bisexual (Αμφιφυλόφιλος) means thereby “attracted to both genders”.

Okay, but where and what is love then? Love can be between two or more individuals and the depth of it is immeasurable. It is a journey inviting you to jump over the cliff or to see the first blossoming crocuses and snowdrops on the spring. It will stretch your heart and make it bigger while nothing takes the pain of shivering and wounded soul away better than a fraction of love. It is remarkable, magnificent, indispensable and beyond belief kind of experience.

Only loved person understands the bond of agape, eros, storge, philoxenia and philia. It requires a lot of courage and acceptance to share them to everyone to hold. We are all the same when it comes to basic needs in life. The need for love lies at the foundation of our existence even we love both genders or not.